Sometimes it takes getting the shits with the way you carry the load through life that you have a breakthrough and just know that something has to change. You discover its not worth the struggle to keep repeating what does not and perhaps never even did benefit you in any way. So you choose to change it.
Have you ever noticed that as soon as you decide to adjust something about yourself for the better you are faced with related challenges? Sometimes our perspective takes this as proof we are not able to succeed and we will be stuck with the same old coping mechanisms, habits of thought and unuseful behaviours we have always had. Or that it is pointless. We become disheartened and decide our life sucks and that’s just the lottery of it.
What if these related challenges are actually the universe’s way of teaching us hands on? How can we change something if we are not faced with opportunities to practice and repeatedly adjust as we become more competent in our ability?
As a species we learn best by repetition. It takes much more than a conscious thought to change learned behaviours, responses and emotions. Without being presented with situations to test us, I suppose it could even be a progress assessment, then we won’t actually progress!!
When we want something bad enough, we persist. Even with setbacks and stop/start energy, the most important part of this is belief in our success and the fact that rewiring our brains takes repetition and patience.
When we see within our selves a quality that does not enrich our growth, experience or authenticity, it is usually one that has been with us for a long time. Shifting our perspective through continually learning and experiencing is the only way to erase it and replace it with one that aligns much better with who we are underneath the conditioning of the inauthentic influences from the many factors that are outside of us.
It is extremely uncomfortable to go through the process. I mean extremely! The only way we can really push through it is by self kindness, forgiveness, nurturing, love and a whole lot of patience! I assure you the frustration and fatigue is a sure sign things are happening for us!
I suppose a good parallel is the process of giving birth, which is as you know not an instantaneous thing. The seed is planted, but then the journey through the gestational period begins. The mother needs to care for herself in order for the growth inside her to be healthy. It seems like gradually the life form grows and changes day by day. And the birth itself? No words to describe it! But once it is over there you have this real and beautifully formed result. Something you nurtured and grew. Once it is born safely into the world it requires specific care, that changes as time goes by.
Making big changes internally is a similar process. All the work goes on inside, impacted hugely by external factors and what we choose to not only do but nourish ourselves with. Then one day it bursts into the world and you know that all the discomfort and hard work was worth it. But the journey is not over, it just changes with new challenges!
The ability to keep going when it feels like nothing good is happening is what we humans are best at!
And like everything else, it is all about perspective. Do not give up. Keep going and before you know it, the goal is reached and you are ready for the next one.
Soul Searching 